Pitch in without burning out.

Lend A Hand Information Hub

When someone is going through a hard time, the big question is often, “What can I do?” This hub helps you move from good intentions to real support. Whether you’re nearby or far away, there are thoughtful, practical ways to show up, share the load, and actually make a difference without overpromising or overextending.

Lend A Hand Information Hub

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Key Things To Know

Looking for ways to step in and support someone going through a tough time? Whether it’s organizing help or offering your own time and energy, small efforts can make a big difference.

  • Start with the person’s needs: Instead of assuming, ask what kind of help would be most meaningful. It could be childcare, yardwork, errands, companionship, or something else entirely.

  • Offer specific tasks: General offers like "let me know if you need anything" are kind but often hard to act on. Be clear with something like "I can walk the dog this week" or "I’m free Thursday afternoon to drive you."

  • Coordinate with others: You don’t have to do it all yourself. Helping is easier when it’s shared. Creating a simple plan or rotation keeps things organized and prevents burnout.

  • Respect boundaries and timing: Some people may not want or be ready to accept help right away. A gentle check-in shows you care without pressuring them.

  • Help can be ongoing: Grief, illness, or hardship doesn’t follow a timeline. Support is often most needed weeks or even months after the initial event.

  • Little things matter: A quick note, a favorite snack, or showing up without being asked can have a bigger impact than you might expect.

  • Let them stay in control: Whenever possible, let the person direct how and when they’d like help. That kind of respect is its own form of support.

  • Be patient and present: Just showing up, consistently and without expectations, can be one of the most powerful ways to lend a hand.

Support Options & Resources

Not sure where to begin? These support tools can help you organize help, coordinate with others, and make sure no one falls through the cracks.

CaringBridge

More than just updates, CaringBridge lets you coordinate support and share ways others can pitch in when it matters most.
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Give InKind

Build a personalized care calendar with tasks like meals, visits, and rides. Make it easy for others to lend support on their schedule.
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SupportNow

Create a shared task list so friends and family can easily step in. From rides to errands, it keeps help organized and meaningful.
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Frequently Asked Questions

Everyone wants to help, but it’s not always clear how. These FAQs can guide you in offering support that’s useful, respectful, and genuinely appreciated.

Ask directly, but offer specific options. People often don’t know how to respond to “Let me know if you need anything,” so try something like, “Would it help if I picked up groceries this week or walked the dog?”

Some people aren’t ready to accept help or may feel uncomfortable doing so. Respect their boundaries, but gently follow up later or offer low-pressure support like dropping off a meal or sending a kind note.

That depends on your relationship. For close friends or family, showing up with food or helping with laundry might feel natural. For others, it’s better to check in first to make sure your help is welcome.

Pick one or two manageable things you can do well, and stick to them. Consistency matters more than trying to do everything.

Absolutely. Friends, coworkers, neighbors—anyone who cares can step up. Just make sure your effort aligns with the family’s preferences and needs.

Great. Collaborate. Creating a shared plan, schedule, or rotation can make sure help is spread out and no one feels overwhelmed or left out.

No. Help where and when you can. Just be honest about your availability, and if you step away, let someone else know so they can fill the gap if needed.

Support is a gift, not a transaction. People in crisis are often exhausted or overwhelmed. Assume gratitude is there, even if it isn’t said out loud.

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Disclaimer: The information provided on this website and by Buried in Work is for general informational purposes only and should not be considered legal advice. Please consult with a qualified attorney or subject matter expert for advice specific to your situation.