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A Letter of Instruction is one of the most useful but least formal parts of an estate plan. Think of it as your “how-to guide” for daily life when you’re no longer there to explain it. It isn’t a legal document, and it doesn’t replace a will or trust. Instead, it fills in the gaps between those legal documents and the practical details of everyday life.

This is where you tell your loved ones what really matters: how to keep the household running, where to find things, how to pay key bills, and how to handle the routines that never make it into a legal form.

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Letter of Instruction

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Why It Matters

When someone dies, their family is suddenly responsible for hundreds of small details at once. Power, water, Wi-Fi, and insurance bills don’t stop just because someone has passed away.

A letter of instruction takes away the guesswork. It tells your family exactly what needs to be done in the first days, weeks, and months. It can include:

  • Who to call first and where key documents are kept
  • How to log into online accounts or access a password manager
  • Which accounts cover the mortgage or rent
  • How to cancel unused subscriptions and automatic payments
  • Notes about pets, vehicles, or ongoing services
  • Anything else that keeps daily life moving
  • Even though a court won’t enforce it, your family will rely on it more than any formal document you have.

What To Include

There’s no required format. You can write it by hand, store it as a Word or PDF file, or use the guided version in the CLEAR Kit. What matters most is clarity and connection. The letter doesn’t replace your other documents. Instead, it tells your family how to find and use them.

Think of it as a table of contents for your life.

1. Where to Find Things

Point your family to key locations: your estate documents, key contact list, funeral or final resting instructions, financial records, and digital logins. Include short notes that explain what each one is for.

2. What Needs Immediate Attention

Highlight time-sensitive tasks: paying essential bills, caring for pets, notifying employers or benefits offices, and managing insurance or mortgage payments.

3. Daily Life Details

Explain routines that may not appear anywhere else. This could include home maintenance schedules, service providers, security codes, or family traditions you want continued.

4. Messages and Personal Notes

Share context that can’t be captured in a legal form. This may include personal guidance, hopes for loved ones, or reflections on specific choices you’ve made.

5. When and How to Update

Encourage your family to treat this as a living document. Add a note on when it was last updated and store it with your estate materials so it’s easy to find.

How to Create and Maintain It

  • Start simple. Even a short note is better than nothing.
  • Keep it organized. Store it with your estate documents, not in a separate drawer or email folder.
  • Update annually. Set a reminder once a year (National Healthcare Decisions Day on April 16 is a good date) to review your information and make small updates.
  • Make it accessible. Tell at least one trusted person where to find it.

Frequently Asked Questions

It’s an informal document that explains what your loved ones need to know after your death or incapacity. It covers everyday details that don’t appear in a will or trust, like where to find things, how to pay bills, and who to call first.

No. A court won’t enforce it, but families rely on it more than any legal form because it tells them what to do, where to start, and what matters most.

A will divides property. A trust manages assets. The Letter of Instruction provides direction. It connects your legal documents to the real-world actions your family must take.

Focus on practical guidance, such as how to access accounts, handle bills, care for pets, locate records, and manage immediate needs. It can also point to other tools like your Key Contact List, Password Log, and Final Arrangements file.

Yes. Many people use it to share wishes, advice, or gratitude. It’s a good place for heartfelt context that doesn’t belong in a legal document.

Keep it with your estate plan. Either in your CLEAR Kit, a home safe, or a secure digital folder. Tell at least one trusted person where to find it.

Review it once a year or whenever something major changes, like a new address, account, or relationship. National Healthcare Decisions Day on April 16 is a great annual reminder.

Yes. The CLEAR Kit includes a guided version with prompts and fill-in sections to make the process easier and ensure you don’t miss key details.

Its usefulness, not its formality. When your family can open it and instantly understand what to do next, you’ve done it right.

Disclaimer: The information provided on this website and by Buried in Work is for general informational purposes only and should not be considered legal advice. Please consult with a qualified attorney or subject matter expert for advice specific to your situation.